Hi all

Here i am sat here in a daze,yesterday i had to admitt my wife into rehab,she has been suffering from deppresion for a number of months and recently it has got worse yesterday was the worse day of my life,i can phone her but can only see her for an hour Mondays and Wednesdays.
She is pretty low but the people there are great and i know they will help her.
I know for sure that when i got home yesterday this thing we do called model making saved me...did not do much but it seemed to calm me down.
Now i have to deal with the Dr who had been giving her pills like they were MMs and repeat perscriptions with out even seeing her it blows my mind.
Thats the crazy thing about this illness if you break your arm everyone says ..hell that must hurt ,but when you break your mind no one knows.
Strange no one but our immediate familys know of this but i know that people on this site will undrstand what my wife is going through and in doing this i have felt a huge weight lifted off me ,thank you Armorama
Chris

Sorry to hear it Chris..Prayers to you and your wife!

My thoughts are with you, my friend.
Depression sucks, I was treated for that several years ago. The first guy I saw was a pill pusher. "Take these and come back in a month." When I didn't like how I felt, he added to the dosage and had me come back in a month. When I was still having problems, he reduced the dose and added a second...come back in a month. After two doses of the second drug, I was on t the phone telling him I was not taking another and wanted instructions on reducing to dc the first. It took me a couple years before I went see another therapist who helped me through the problem with talk therapy.

The point of all this is that with the right treatment, you can get a lot better. Having her in a controlled situation for a while will be a great help to her as well.

Chris, I'm not a religious person, but I sincerely hope that your wife's health returns and she finds happiness. I've a close relative with depression so I've been there and know a little about how difficult it can be. You have all my best wishes mate.

Vinnie

My thoughts are with you during this time, My Nan has just recovered from the very same thing, with the added drug dealer of a doctor, who i might add is now under investigation from several complaints one of them from us.

sit tight she is in the best place and best wishes for your wife and yourself

redleg

Hi,


All the best for your wife and I hope she has a quick recovery.


All the best for you too on this dificult time.

Chris,
I hope that thing will work out soon for you and your wife. And I understand what you're saying about the hobby helping. I'll add to that with this story. When my wife was in a bad way (heart attack) I couldn't sleep one night. So I got on line and jumped into the chat room. Lucky for me there were a couple guys there and they were really a big help just talking with me. there's one (I won't mention any names) that still asks me about my wife and how she's doing.
Good bunch of people here. Take advantage of it any way that helps.
Good luck,
Craig

Chris:

Nothing is more scary than the unknown. Believe me, I've been there. Without too many details, I'll just say that when I was 18 my mom was admitted for depression. That was 17 years ago. It was a long road, but she is a much happier person today than I think she ever was in her entire life. She had the same type of doctors that changed her medications back and forth for years. She finally got off all of them and is doing better without. I'm not suggesting that's what it should be in your wifes case, but just letting you know I can sympathize.

Just love your woman the best you can, and make sure to take care of yourself as well. Remeber, outside of your family and those around you, you also have a vast amount of shoulders to lean on here as well.

I'll be thinking of you, and my wife, kids, and I will add you to our prayers tonight.

John

All the best to you and your wife. It sounds like she is on the right path now. My brother checked himself into rehab about 15 years ago (not for depression) and he has been a much happier, healthier person since he got treatment.

God bless,

Shaun

If she's in a rehab, she's in the right place......

Since this is an area of my expertise, been working with those in recovery for over 20 years, my best suggestion is to let them do their job. I would also suggest that family members get the counseling and support they need also.

Good Luck, and feel free to PM me.

Our thoughts to you and your wife Chris.. I concur with Dave, shes in the right place to get the right help.. They can do far better then a pill pusher..

Dave

Chris, I know all too well what depression can do to a person. I have been through it. Luckily I had a strong support system (family) all around me and got through it OK. You wife will get through it as well. She is in good hands receiving good help. I know it is hard but now you need to be strong for both of you. With time everything will get better.

My thoughts are with you and your wife my friend.

Admitting there is a problem is a huge first step towards recovery. Good Luck. You've passed one of the major milestones already

I concure with what Dave said. If the family doesn't do theoropy along with her, she might as well just beat her head against the wall. The key here is not to find blame, there are no cover ups, just be honest and if everyone in the family works together you'll get through this. Life is fragile Chris, take stock in prayer. Most of all, relax.

Stay Strong Chris, I have had my Nana go through depression. It is a scary time specially when you don't really understand what was going on (My sister was only 7 or 8 at the time). Just remember we are here for your Wife and yourself.

Hi all

I would like to take this oppourtunity to thank you all for your wonderfull words of support in the posts here and the pms that i have had ,she did not have a very good day yesterday the whols gamit of feelings.
You can not belive what it was like to get home last night to an empty house feeling so low and to see these posts a wonderful sense of not being alone,you can not belive what strength that this has been for me.
Thank you all so very very much.
Chris