Some cameras and lenses have a "preview" button that closes down the aperture so you can check you depth of field. Otherwise just shoot a series of shots at different F stops and see what works best.
Not trying to be pedantic but I found photography a lot easier once I knew what all the bits were doing: The aperture doesn't actually open during exposure. It is just a hole through which the light passes that you can make smaller or bigger using the f stops. The shutter is what opens and for a variable time, shutter speed.
If you are going for long shutter times you might want to consider a cable release, infrared remote or using the self timer function to avoid the shake from you pressing the trigger. In an SLR a fair bit of metal is moving during the exposure so it pays to get a big heavy tripod as the smaller cheaper ones actually wobble when the mirror moves and shutter opens.
Not sure how techo your camera is but watch out too that as you close down the aperture and slow down the shutter some modern cameras take it upon themselves to change the ISO of the CCD. Basically they group the megapixels of your camera together to make it more light sensitive. Instead of 1 pixel being one point of light it might use 3 or 4 per point of light so in effect your camera has only a quater of the resolution. This has the effect of making you pictures quite grainy. You have heaps of light so you should be able to keep it on ISO 100 no problem if you keep an eye on it.
Fluro's should give a greenish colour cast so the if your pictures are a bit pink it can be from shooting and saving to JPG which does tend to take out the blue channel a bit.
If you can shoot Tiff or even better RAW or you can fix the red by nudging the colour balance in Photoshop.
The other thing that might be happening is the colour of the model is pinkish so it could be reflecting the light you are shining on it a little bit, although with a diffuser this is less likely. Try another model of a different colour and see. If you are getting a bit of a colour cast just drop the wattage a little. Photo 4 looks much more brown in the dimmer light ?
I have to say though the pictures look pretty good, nice and sharp and you can see the details really well with no heavy shadows.
The third photo from the top is my pick, if that helps in anyway !
